Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Saint - Sinner

I just don't understand why until now people won't let go. Ok, I know you are now wary of posting in the forum or in your blogs. That's just normal. But c'mon, this did not happen to you. You weren't the victim here. And they already apologized to us. That should be the end of it.

Just to show how much I appreciate their reaching out to me, I'll share some excerpts of our conversations. (Yep, I have been in constant communication with them after everything)

"We understand how you feel about being the "laughing stock" and all, because at one point we all have been. And the truth is everyone CAN RIDICULE and BE RIDICULED.  We know what we have done is wrong, and that why we are asking for an apology.

It is quite not fair to reveal our personal contact information just so for everyone to see. Whatever past issues we had, we wanted this to end so as to help you and others release their hatred against us. We do hope that with this letter, you will erase those public blog posts so everyone can start with a clean slate. No more obvious messages attacking us in the boards, and we will do the same. We know this may take a while but we hope we could put this "online war" a thing of the past.  It was never our intention that the contents of the blog would go out of public. Again, it is a private conversation among friends. We apologize if things got out of hand and if we hurt people along the way."

If I may ask, WHO AMONG YOU (yes you whoever you are who's reading this) HAVE NOT, AT ANY POINT, RIDICULED SOMEONE? Don't tell me you are so perfect that you and you're friends have not laughed at somebody. Lahat naman tayo may na OKRAY na in public, what more kung kayo kayo na lang ng mga kaibigan mo?

I won't pretend to be clean and I will admit that even I have said some ugly stuff to other people (whether in GT or not). I too have been a bully at some point. I'm human after all. That is why I was able to forgive them. Because in my mind and in my heart, I would want to be forgiven too.

And this, for me, really showed their sincerity:

"Dear Ms. Shoutingwind,

I know we already sent apologies on you. But I want to make it a personal apology on my part.

I know I admit I went a little too overboard on defacing pictures and thinking about it I know it is very wrong and I'm very sorry. During those times I did it, I've been very careless and full of rants not thinking what might happen if those actions were done against me. I know I've hurt you in many ways and I want to apologize for it.

I just realized how shallow I was for doing that not even knowing you personally. There are lots of lessons I learned on this issue and one of them is about respecting people and opinions.

Again, I would like to say sorry to you. I'm not expecting that you will accept it, but at least I tried to reach out to you and let you know my deepest apologies. I know how you feel when you vent out your anger and I understand it. I just want to end all the commotions and stir it caused. "

- Candy


I know I already said this but I'm saying it again. It really made a difference that Candy (pink_candy) reached out to me.

This goes out to the GT community: If I was able to forgive them, why can't you? We now just want to move past this and start over again. Let's give each other a chance. 

I am not a saint. I am a sinner trying to do the right thing. I hope you do too.


7 comments:

  1. Bravo! =) True strength of character, this.

    PS. At ang ganda naman ng picture na nakalagay!

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  2. I agree, that second personal letter was a proper apology. The first one wasn't.

    It's good that somebody apologized to you personally. I'm not sure if they have apologized personally to the other person who was most ridiculed (aika).

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  3. @Mindy, yeah hinanap ko talaga yung photo. :D

    @melvel, after the first letter they sent, nakipag usap talaga ako sa kanila. I opened the lines of communication. Because there was so much to say. The million dollar question is, ganun din ba ang ginawa nya? or nyo? Or hinayaan nyo na lang sila? Or pasugod pa din kayo nag reply?

    I can honestly say now na wala na akong baggage na dala coz na unload ko na. Sa kanila mismo. They know how hurt I was and I know how sorry they are. That's good enough for me to start over.

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  4. shoutingwind: I replied to the forwarded apology. I didn't get a reply from the person who sent it, or any of the other people in their group. I'm not expecting one, but I hope aika gets a personal apology (not a forwarded one) as well.

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  5. @mel, baka naman kasi aika didn't take the apology well that's why the other group didn't reply back.
    Respect begets respect.
    Ako, I was honest enough to tell them how I felt that's why siguro hanggang ngayon nag sosorry pa din sila sa akin.

    I'm telling you, they are nice people naman. We just didn't have the chance to be friends kaya ganon.

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  6. Anonymous11:53 AM

    Hi, shoutingwind, feelpretty here!

    I'm glad you've moved on, and that you were able to talk to them still. I agree, respect begets respect. I've already made my piece sa isang thread where I frequent. As I posted there, BYGONES na sana. Tagal na rin naman. And as you said , there were apologies made and accepted at that (at least on your part).

    Gusto ko sanang mag-post dun sa thread where the "bangayan" is happening still. Kaya lang what's the point, right? Parang they won't let these people get on with their "GT" lives. I believe we all have goodness in our hearts just as we also let out our "mean" behavior at times. Alam naman nilang nagkamali sila. Kaya please lang, sana naman the others would spare them further ridicule by stopping the repostings. It will just be an endless cycle!

    Good luck. Hope to see your posts sa GT, now as a regular member. ;)

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  7. Hey feelpretty! Thanks for dropping by. Yan din gusto ko, mag move on na! Sana itigil na din yung pag circulate ng files. Nagmumukhang mga bitter eh. :D

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